A quote from Infinite ThØught’s culture blog:
Films that appear to be ‘all about women’, such as Sex and the City are paeans to a curious combination of ultra-mediation and a post-religious obsession with ‘the one’. You go to the City in search of ‘labels and love’; the one mediating the other – the nicest thing your boyfriend can do for you is have a giant wardrobe installed for all your ‘labels’. Drinks with ‘the girls’ are dominated by discussions about whether he is ‘the one’ or not. What does this obsession with ‘the one’ mean? The bourgeoisie may have ‘drowned the most heavenly ecstasies of religious fervour, of chivalrous enthusiasm, of philistine sentimentalism, in the icy water of egotistical calculation’, as Marx and Engels observed, but certain religious motifs are harder to shake than others. The ‘one’ as the transcendent culmination of an entire romantic destiny demonstrates a curious melange of the sentimental (‘we were always meant to be together!’) and the cynical (if there’s a ‘one’ then the ‘non-ones’ don’t count; the sex with them is of no importance, there is no need to behave even moderately pleasantly towards them).